THE OBSERVATION BOOTH
OP / ED & PHOTOS COURTESY ANDREA DIALECT
LITTLE ME
Parenting is twenty-five years to life, and you don’t always get off on good behavior. Rearing children is a far cry from purchasing Nike sneakers and cutesy outfits. Your entire life will change. If you ain’t into the DRASTIC changes and challenges of the unknown, take the necessary steps to avoid doing so, and do not – I repeat – don’t opt in!
That’s one of the many things I always told my children or other folks’ children. My mama always told us, “A hard head makes a soft behind.” This new Tamie Tutor, social media guru’s approach to rearing our kids will mean many sleepless nights – mark my words.
I ain’t saying that the older generation knew it all. They had their shortcomings, yes indeed. But for the most part, they did pretty well, although maybe those who reared you personally may have dropped the ball. But one thing was for certain, many exemplified or told ya what you should do, either by word or deed.
Today, unfortunately, there are way too many who, I find, sadly exemplify what ya should not. But, when I really think about it, I guess, in many instances, that can be even more beneficial. The words that follow are reprints on the page. Read it and let it sit right there.
Look around at our present state in humanity. Because this, by far, is not only a Mocha thang and has never been for the love of God. We are really in a bad state. Look, watch, think about it, and pray. Because we’re going to need it, and I will return to this subject matter in the near future.
I hear it over and over, time and time again… in the streets, on the bus, in the church house, the schoolhouse – you name it! “They” (as in somebody else) need to help with these kids. First off, who’s “they”? Secondly, what the hell can be done instantaneously when it comes to mind stuff… Annihilate? That’s what I told ‘em on the bus that day and a little bit of what follows of course, give or take lol.
When I could no longer deal with the foolishness of that convo, “they need to help us with these kidz!”, and there was a whole bunch of pearl clutchin’ That’s how the title came about.
MAMA’S BABY, AND DADDY’S SOMETIMES NOT…
Truth is, many of us are as bad off as kids, and when Mama or Daddy didn’t do it, or don’t do it, or if one or both aren’t physically present and/or mentally and emotionally available and stable, we cannot expect other folk to tidy up our mess. That’s the gist of our misconception of being victimized during the aftermath of such negligence, as if society has dropped the ball when they didn’t send in the clean-up crew. We must take responsibility for whom or what we’re shooin’ outta that house, which is now parading around as the family rep, cause…
The war on violence begins at our current address. If we are to silence the moans of guilt and shun the comfort of blame, which impedes solutions, we mustn’t solicit the fall guy. More importantly, we cannot be contributors to the constant demands of ignorance’s need of supply by breeding culprits. Respect for humanity and a healthy knowledge of ethical codes of conduct are imperative, and that begins at the home front. Which makes it family business. FYI: We are the clean-up crew/committee!
Note: Even if we wanted to send in a clean-up crew, what could that crew do that would or could drastically and immediately change this issue? When it comes to mind stuff, reprogramming can’t be done in a week, a day, or a month. Add the free will component to that life law list, and it makes it against the rules. Besides, we can’t make them change.
Sadly, most don’t recognize until it’s too late that something’s wrong, and unfortunately, oftentimes, you can’t tell ’em about it. So, let’s do this. Let’s get the needed help if we can’t go at it alone, which is all around – in the form of books, neighbors, hotlines, parent groups, social media – wherever, from whomever. Let’s do this while it’s a simplified, doable task. Let’s do this while they are young.
On The Flipside
What percentage of parents enjoy parenting?
Another 44% said it’s enjoyable most of the time. That’s a total of 80% of respondents who described parenting as enjoyable. Similarly, 25% described parenting as rewarding all the time, and 58% described it as rewarding most of the time, for a total of 82%. Those are overwhelming majorities.
DID YOU KNOW….
What age is the most fun to parent?
Almost 40 percent of the 2,000 moms and dads polled thought they had the best time when their child hit age 5 – in part because they “started to communicate properly” and had developed “a good sense of humor.” On the flip side, however, is the age range the parents polled rated the most difficult: between 10 and 12.
What is depleted mother syndrome?
Mom burnout, sometimes called depleted mother syndrome, is the feeling of mental, emotional, and physical exhaustion, depersonalization, and lack of fulfillment caused by intense child care demands.
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